Hello again!
I feel like I haven't done this blog justice for I have pretty much abandoned it for about 5 months. Well, my life has been in a whirlwind these past months. There had been many times when I tried to write something but ending up not liking it and saving it in the draft folders.
Anyway, a few days ago a very close friend of mine asked "Have you ever regretted your decision to move to ITB?" It was an expected question, I know she had had it on the tip of her tongue for so long, it was only a matter of time.
Well, my answer has always been the same, even from the day one. "No"
Just like what Nelson Mandela once said
"May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”
That quote is so beautiful and it inspires me so much. It was really hard to decide whether to move or not, I was afraid of so many things, I was afraid of not having friends, I was afraid of having my expectations too high, I was afraid of wasting all the comfort I've earned in UI, and many other things. But then I remembered that quote and I realize that I don't want to spend my life based on my fears, I don't want to spend my life thinking "what ifs" because you know at the end of the day you only regret the chances you didn't take. So no matter how bad it gets, at the very least I can always take pride in knowing that I have defeated my fears.
I'd be lying if I said that I didn't have hard time adapting in here, but I also learned so many things, things I never really understood before. I learned some of it the hard way, I wish I can save some of your time by writing it here.
- Being alone won't make you feel lonely. You'll feel lonely when you are among the people who do not care about you being there. In short, it's much much much better to be alone rather than be with those people.
- Most of the bad things are only in your mind, that's why you need to try to be as positive as possible
- Most of the people are not as bad as you thought they were, you just need to know them a little bit better.
- But, there are also some people who are just plainly a pain in the ass and they don't deserve any of your time nor your sympathy.
- Yes, a quality time with your self is needed once in a while, but too much of it can be venomous.
- If you don't make the first move, no one else will.
- At the end of the day you will only have your self, and darling if you don't take care of your self good enough you will have a hell of ride trying to put everything together.
Other than those lessons, I too, have met so many wonderful people that are slowly making me feel 'home' in Bandung. Just like I've told you before, I'm
surely, slowly falling for the people too.
"And we are far from home, but we're so happy
Far from home, all alone, but we're so happy "
-Of Monster and Men - From Finner-
